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Memory is strange that way. Forty years can disappear in an instant because of the shape of certain letters. Carol always pressed too hard with her pen. Even in high school, her writing looked angry.<\/p>\n<p>Sophie sat at the kitchen table while I stared at the paper far too long.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGrandma,\u201d she whispered carefully, \u201cdid I do something wrong?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That question hurt more than the note itself.<\/p>\n<p>Because children always assume cruelty is deserved.<\/p>\n<p>And suddenly I was seventeen again, watching Carol Walker stand alone near the cafeteria windows while people laughed at a rumor I had started simply because I was bored and wanted attention. I remembered the nicknames. The mocking. The way I convinced myself it wasn\u2019t bullying because I never touched her. 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